Since the Ukrainian war broke out, my mother and the rest of the family had to move to Poland to ensure safety for us there. As we moved to Lublin, one of the cities in Poland, we encountered financial difficulties and my mum tried to find a job as an architect, because she got a Master’s degree in architecture from “Kyiv National University of Architecture and Construction”. But she could not have been employed anywhere except in low-paying job positions, because the employers believed that her degree was unacceptable and she was suitable to work only for “feminine” job positions, like cleaning staff. She had to live in this reality of public discrimination for over two years until we had the opportunity to move to Portugal because of my father’s job offer to work in a construction company. However, after a while, the construction company, where my father worked closed down and my mother started looking for work that would be at least tangentially related to her major as an architect. To date, her efforts to get employed for such job positions have been in vain, as she has only a basic level of knowledge of Portuguese language. Even though she knows Polish at B2, English at B1 level, Ukrainian, and Russian fluently, she still cannot get hired due to unfamiliarity with the local language (or local second language, French). In addition, my mother brings up my little brother, Kiril, who currently attends 1st grade in Portuguese primary school and had to spend a handful of time on him starting from taking him to school, preparing lunchbox for him every day, preparing dinner for the entire family and ending with walking him back from school and learning Portuguese with him while helping to do his homework.
That is why my mother has no other way except to continue learning Portuguese, as she cannot work on hard labor jobs (she is 48), she has time restrictions, and she also has to take care of my brother and tackle financial difficulties every day. She cannot continue her career path as she planned when she graduated because she dedicates all her time to so-called feminine” responsibilities. She brought up me, my two elder sisters and now she spends her time on my little brother. She also cooks meals for my little brother and the rest of the family and thus she does not have any spare time left to develop her business in the architecture industry. I feel, that my mother is not the only example of such unfairness encountered in her life, and the majority of women cannot continue their intended career path because of fostering a younger generation that will become the backbone of the future development in the world. In a few countries, mothers are paid for the birth of the child, however, it is still a large issue in our modern world as many other states do not follow the same scheme. I believe this problem that every mother faces daily when they devote a large part of their life to making up a new generation, has to be considered and not neglected worldwide. That is why I created this website to bring this issue to public attention and make others aware of the current problems caused by gender inequity in our society.